Tell Me What You Want, What Really Really Want
If you deeply want something, in your heart and your... gut, these quotes may inspire you to take that feeling seriously, understand yourself better and take action.
When you really want something, how does it feel? Is it simply a mental excitement, a thought you can't get out of your head or a deep, intense feeling in your gut?
Have The Guts To Ask
Asking someone for something can make you feel vulnerable, especially if you learnt in the past that expressing what you wanted wasn't safe.
But it is actually the only way to get what you're looking for. There's no guarantee, of course, but other people can't respond to needs they don't know about.
Emma Albani:
Unless you know what you want, you can't ask for it.
Maya Angelou:
Ask for what you want and prepare to get it.
George Hammond:
The only way to get everything you want in life is to be very clever about what you want.
Negative Beliefs
Easier said than done, because what we think about ourselves and the world can often get in the way of our dreams.
Instead, focusing on what you want seems a much better approach.
Melanie A. Smith:
Stop overwhelming yourself with what you think you can or can't do and focus on what you want.
Author Unknown
Be mindful of what you want, instead of what you don't want. Constantly focusing on the problem will not manifest the solution.
Zig Ziglar:
The first step to getting what you want is to have the courage to get rid of what you don't.
A Posibility Mindset
Compromise is generally seen as a good thing. It suggests that you're willing to take other people's needs and wants into account. We tend to like people who are easy-going and get along well with us, don't we?
But I don't think compromise is noble and I certainly wouldn't call it a win-win. Both sides have to give up something, and neither gets what they truly want.
Robert Fritz:
If you limit your choices to only what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is a compromise.
Waldo Emerson:
You wouldn't have the desire if you didn't have the ability to achieve it.
Cats Do It Right ;-)
Joseph Wood Krutch:
Cats seem to go on the principle that it never does any harm to ask for what you want.
Gratitude
Psychologists call this hedonic adaptation. Something that once felt like a dream come true gradually becomes part of everyday life, and eventually it just feels normal - nothing extraordinary or special.
A quote by Epicurus:
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
I Deserve Better
I'm actually not sure I believe in the idea of deserving things in life. There are plenty of people who, if we judge by what seems morally right or wrong, may not deserve what they have - and yet they have it because they worked for it.
I think success has far more to do with taking action and putting in the work than with feeling that you deserve it.
But according to Charles T. Munger, it definitely helps:
To get what you want, you have to deserve what you want. The world is not yet a crazy enough place to reward a whole bunch of undeserving people.
It Never Ends
2 retired men. One of them had no life outside of work, and once he suddenly had a lot of free time, he didn't know what to do with himself. He started drinking and gradually declined. The other started doing things for his family, kept himself physically and mentally active, and is doing just fine.
Rudy Ruettiger:
When you achieve one dream, dream another. Getting what you want is only a problem if you have nowhere to go next. Dreaming is a lifetime occupation.
The Bottom Line
Here are 4 more quotes that may inspire you to discover what you truly want and go for it.
Shannon L. Alder:
When what you value and dream about doesn't match the life you are living, you have pain.
Winifred Holby:
The things that one most wants to do are the things that are probably most worth doing.
Thomas Jefferson:
If you want something you've never had, you must be willing to do something you've never done.
Ella Fitzgerald:
Just don't give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there is love and inspiration, I don't think you can go wrong.
